I first noticed this phenomenon at an office gig I held for several years. It was on a campus with several buildings, about a thousand local employees. Another few hundred nationally. We did outings (company picnics, awards banquets, etc) where spouses would attend. Even two international trips where we were all together for a week.
Couple after couple after couple: the exact same dynamic. Smart, talented, accomplished women married to complete wallflower / boring / robot husbands. I've seen this dozens of times and I bet you have also.
I have no answers. My question to you all is: why is this so common?
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